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Stopping off at the post office today, I was waiting on by the always polite clerk who has gotten so used to my being there of the last year that it’s not even funny and we began discussing the weather. The clerk began to tell me about how they had used the nice day yesterday to wash their car because they don’t clean it when the weather is cooler. We had a good laugh about that and then the clerk said something that caught my attention in another way.

“As you can see I have a pretty dull life,” they said.

I encouraged that it surly was not dull but the clerk insisted it was as we parted ways. I left the post office and began thinking about how submitting to a ‘dull’ life is just not what life is all about! Life is truly meant to be lived to the fullest and beyond submission to a false idea that life is just ‘ok’ or ‘so-so’.

I was there! I was over weight (by 50 pounds), I blamed others, I just rolled with everything that was handed to me instead of taking it head on. I felt that I had a ‘dull’ life and fell into the trap of that was just how it was and I had been dealt that hand. How wrong I was!

This month alone I hired a life coach to help guide me to the next level of my writing and speaking career. His name is RM Dozier and upon meeting him a year ago, I know this guy is going to push me and that is what I desire. I’m not afraid to seek help for my goals and RM is just the man to help me fine tune my focus! We have a conference call coming up next week and I am all out ready for it!

I was also asked if I might give the keynote speech for my old high school’s career day and I said I would be humbled to! I’m just waiting for a reply and it will be off to the races for speech writing and run through to polish it.

In one month, I will be traveling to northern Indiana and presenting two presentations at Canterbury School and am ready to crush it with excitement and fun! I have also been confirmed for a elementary school visit in central Illinois in April and one in Southern Illinois in May. Add in a pre-graduation ceremony speech before the graduating class of my local high school and the truth is I have anything but a ‘dull’ life!

No matter what it is, your life is your life! If you find it becoming a bit ‘dull’ or lackluster, let’s jump on giving it a polish, you’ll feel so good once you’ve begun!

Let’s get into 2018! This is everyone’s year to take off!!





In my hand is the letter that I have typed up to submit to local area high school asking to come and speak to their students. The moment we begin working towards our goals and leave worry about what others might say behind, we begin living a quality of life that 90-95% of the world are not living. Go all in, life is waiting!

“To live an above average life, we must become above average people!” – Jim Rohn

This week I stepped onto the ledge and took a jump!

For years the idea of public speaking was filled with a sense of fear that held me back. It wasn’t the fear of getting in front of others, it was the fear of looking like I didn’t know what I was doing. That is the most debilitating fear that one can have and it is as false as the voices in our minds telling it to us!

This week I sat down at my computer and began writing to every high school in a hundred mile radius and asked if I could speak to their students free of charge. Now that might seem rather risk taking but in truth it is necessary to create a base for my career. Don’t misunderstand me, the farther I will go, I will ask for something like my fuel in return while within this area and later turn this into a career that will support me and my children. The key is to get my plane off the ground and go higher into the clouds.

I’ll admit that I am nervous, but the nervousness is simply a sign of the next level approaching and the time is coming to prepare to grab ahold and pull myself to that level and leave the old one behind!

Whatever your wanting to do in your life, I want to encourage you to go for it and go for it now! There is never a more perfect time like today, like right now! In the words of the old film ‘Captain Ron’, Turn On The Juice And See What Shakes Loose!


This week I was honored to be a part of ‘Inspired By JimmyL’ again; this time for the new series segment, ‘Positivity Chat’. This was a great time and I now have an amazing friend in host, Jimmy Warr-Mize. I encourage you to like his Facebook and Instagram sites! Jimmy is really helping others!


I want to begin by wishing you a save and happy new year! My hope for you is nothing less than the magnificent life you have waiting for you!

It has been a long time coming for this moment. Once an idea in my head for a couple of years, now to the point that I am able to reveal the cover for my new book: WHEN THE STORM RUNS OUT OF RAIN!

This cover comes with the help of my good friend, Dr. Gage Caudell, not only a surgeon but a successful photographer who blessed me with the image seen above! This photo captures the very heart of this book and I am blessed to have him so graciously allow this cover to be here now!

I want to thank my son, Lynden for so much positive support through the writing of this book. My mentor and good friend, Dr. Coyte Cooper, for coaching me through some crazy moments and writing two books himself (Impressions, Make Your Mark) and being a guide for what a book should say. My new friend, Nicole Zeien-Cox, author of Foster To Fosters, for being the straw that broke the back of this camel and set the pace for a crazy 30 days of writing!

This book is now in editing and then to interior layout. It is scheduled for a 2018 publication date.

It is my wish for everyone who reads this book that they find the power, belief and will to make every goal they set a reality and know that sometimes a setback is the beginning of a comeback!

More posts will follow as time draws near publication. Wishing everyone a wonderful 2018!!!!


Wishing you a very wonderful holiday!!


If the last two weeks could have any more packed into it, I wouldn’t have known where to put it!


It all began with my oldest son, Lynden having his high school band Christmas concert. This year’s performance was held in the smaller gym which made for a tight fit but we made it work! These kids work so hard and sounded incredible! This set off the Christmas feeling for me!


The following day, I completed my 12th book in a row reading! CAPITAL GAINES by: Chip Gaines is an amazing and heartfelt book written as thought you are right there in your room talking with the author. If you are looking for a book with character and offering a boost to your self-improvement, you must read this book!

Two days later, Lynden rode to Charleston, Illinois to the campus of Eastern Illinois University where he had been invited to play as a member of the EIU Honor Band. He went up that morning and went through an entire day of practice for a performance later that evening. My younger sons, Ethan and Rylen, made the journey with me later that evening to attend the performance and to say that this was anything less than my blowing would be flat out dishonest! This was simply incredible to watch!!

1214171256As the week began to wind down, I went for a run on the coldest day of the Fall. With it only 20 degrees, I got in my four mile trek around the state park and with three layers covering me, nothing was going to stand in my way of getting this one in! I love running at the state park near my home! From the squirrels barking in the trees, the fallen leaves blowing around in the cold breeze or the sounds of geese on the lake, running is nothing but fun and having fun is the name of the game!

1214171354_HDR The running has changed my life this year and when people everywhere began commenting on my weight loss, I could not help but find these two photos and become awe-struck at just how much my mindset has gotten me in one year! August 8th marked the final day that I drank a soda and I have not touched one since that day. A big shout out to my son Lynden and good friend Dr. Coyte Cooper for giving me the right environment at the right moment for the resolve! 50 pounds lost this year!

This week, I have also been blessed with so much time and memories with my children! My sons are the reason for everything and the success that I am discovering is because of the hard work that comes from my love for them and their love for me! I am so blessed!

Next came an idea! The idea for four up-and-coming entrepreneurs, authors and speakers to get together for the purpose of impacting lives! As of right now, the four involved are on board for what will become nothing short of a crazy, impactful and memorable event on the horizon! #boydbarlow #jimmywarr-mize #nicolezeine-cox #levibfox

1220171228_HDRNear mid week, my 13th book arrived and I began to dive right in! THE MAGNOLIA STORY accounts the beginnings of Chip and Joanna Gaines and is a heartfelt read of just what it takes to make life a real success, and I’m not just talking about $. I recommend this book already from the manner it is written and how personal the conversation is between these good people and the reader!

As for the hot water line that had to be replaced under my rental house, my craftsman neighbor climbed under a week ago and put a repair clamp on the old and rusted hot water line in hopes of being able to avoid a complete replacement. Not being one for tight places and spiders, I was grateful for all of the help Adam gave for this. We turned the water on and it seemed to be holding. Later on I noticed that the water meter had a slow turn and the line was leaking in a new location. This meant yesterday, I did what any person with a growth mindset would do. I sucked it up, crawled under the house and cut out the old line and replaced it with new. Problem solved! After all of the hard work Adam put in for free, I could not allow him to do this much again and consider myself a good neighbor. Now with just a few blinds in the windows and some woodwork to clean up, my rental house will welcome the new year and a new renter!

With Christmas approaching, let me wish you a Merry Christmas, Happy Hanukkah and a Blessed Kwanzaa! May wonderful memories fill your lives!!!

P.S. The book cover for my new book will be revealed on New Years Day!